My three children have shaped me into the woman I am today – through their lives, I have found my own. My degree in elementary education, teaching and civic involvement have all had an impact, but my children are my true mentors. Motherhood has brought me some of my greatest joys and deepest sorrows. Knowing what I know now, would I do it all over again? Without hesitation, yes.
In the midst of incomprehensible grief, I was determined to find what some have termed “collateral beauty” – grace in the wake of tragedy. We all search for our why, our purpose in life, and losing Tim made mine crystal clear. I don’t profess to have all the answers, but I do know that Tim’s journey has taught me so much, and it is time for me to share. I learned that we are all unique and our differences should be respected. I learned that we all have gifts and the potential to use them.
Above all, I learned to walk alongside my son, without judgement, and to respect his path. This wasn’t an easy task, and some days were more challenging than others. I learned that I wasn’t in control, and I learned to take things one day at a time.
It is through my deepest pain and my unending love for my children, Tim, Allie and John, that The Tim Buckley Project was born. I am taking that love, combining it with my years of experience working for a private non-profit, and finding the collateral beauty. Tim is still teaching us lessons every day, and through his Project, we have the chance to share them with others.